Love type quiz

What this love type quiz measures

People date in very different ways. Some send the first message within an hour. Others wait for months and hope the other person makes a move. Some want to text all day; others feel boxed in by it. None of this is good or bad, but it shapes how a relationship feels.

This quiz looks at three of those differences. We picked them because they come up again and again when couples talk about what went wrong or what works. Each one is a scale, and where you land on all three gives you one of 8 love types.

The types and the questions are our own, written for this site. It's a quiz for fun and self-reflection, not a scientific test, and it isn't connected to any other love-type quiz you may have seen.

The three scales

Who makes the move: do you take the lead (ask people out, plan dates, fill silences) or do you prefer the other person to steer? Leading isn't more confident, and following isn't more shy. It's just a style.

Pace of feelings: do your feelings arrive fast and hot, with butterflies and big gestures? Or do they build slowly and stay calm, often starting as friendship? We call these passionate and steady.

Closeness: how much contact feels good? Some people want to see their partner most days and share every little thing. Others need regular time alone to feel like themselves, even in a happy relationship.

The 8 love types in brief

Leading and passionate: the Wholehearted Romantic (wants to be close all the time) and the Thrill Seeker (needs freedom too). Both chase love with energy.

Leading and steady: the Caretaker (close, reliable, plans the details) and the Calm Guide (relaxed, gives plenty of space). Both lead without drama.

Following and passionate: the Devoted Puppy (waits to be chosen, then loves with everything) and the Moonlit Mystery (big feelings, likes to be pursued, keeps some space).

Following and steady: the Cozy Homebody (gentle, loves quiet closeness) and the Slow Bloomer (takes their time and values independence).

How your type is worked out

There are 18 statements, 6 for each scale. Your answer counts from 0 (disagree) to 4 (agree). Two statements on each scale are worded the other way round, like "I'd rather be asked out than do the asking", so for those, agreeing counts toward the other end. That stops you getting a strong score just by agreeing with everything.

For each scale we add up your 6 answers and divide by the maximum, 24. That gives a score from 0% to 100%. Above 50% puts you on the lead, passionate or close side. 50% or below puts you on the follow, steady or space side.

Your three sides together give your type. If a bar sits close to the middle, you're near the line between two types, and it's worth reading both.

Which love types get along?

This part is just for fun. Types that share the same closeness level tend to have an easier time day to day, because they agree on how often to text and meet. A Devoted Puppy and a Wholehearted Romantic rarely argue about "you never reply".

A leader and a follower can also fit well, since one plans and the other enjoys. Two leaders may clash over who picks the restaurant. Two followers may spend a lot of time saying "I don't mind, you choose".

The hardest mix is usually very close plus very free, like a Devoted Puppy with a Calm Guide. It can work beautifully, but only if both of you talk openly about how much contact you each need.

How much to trust your result

Treat it as a mirror, not a verdict. Eighteen questions can catch your general style, but you can be quite different with a different person, or at a different age. A new crush often makes people more passionate and clingy than they'd usually be.

If something in your result stings, like being told you're hard to read, take it as a hint for a conversation rather than a flaw. And if worry about a relationship is weighing on you, a trusted friend or a counsellor will help more than any quiz.